One evening, my partner and I were comparing notes after work. "I had to explain the prognosis of a female patient to her next-door neighbour," he said. Sensing a story I asked him: "Did she have no family?" "She does,” he replied. “But all her next of kin are women."

While this may surprise some, it is a routine practice in hospitals and clinics around India. "Where is the man of the house?" is the standard question most physicians ask before breaking any news to the patient or their family. Doctors also prefer to update male bystanders about the patient's condition and discuss treatment options with them. Many healthcare professionals understand that most of the cash flow in many Indian families is controlled by the men and hence, most household decisions, health-related or otherwise, are often made by them.

Health decisions, an indicator of autonomy

"Indian women do not even make their own healthcare decisions," says Mohammad Aslam Ali, my partner and a senior resident of dermatology in Guwahati. "Doctors eventually start adopting this approach also because after spending a lot of time explaining to the woman, she almost always says, ‘Could you explain this to my father/husband/brother?’ So they stop explaining to women because they may have to explain twice." 

Making health-related decisions for oneself is one of the many indicators of autonomy. The others are freedom of movement, access to income, participation in the labour force and the ability to make financial decisions. Many indices calculating female autonomy include the ability to make health decisions for oneself as one of the prominent markers. However, it is a right still denied to most Indian women due to cultural reasons. 

‘It is a family decision’

"Whenever I explain their reproductive choices or breastfeeding options to women, they always say the decision is not theirs to make. It is a family decision," says Shaba Fathima, who works in a rural community health centre in Chittoor, Andhra Pradesh. "Sometimes families decide to go against my advice and follow traditional wisdom instead. I can only indicate to them that it will be harmful to the woman's health. I can see that most of the women who come to me do not have an inch of autonomy over their bodies. It makes me very sad."